Mile-A-Day to the Rescue
I don't know about you, but I find it difficult to establish a regular exercise program that I can stick with, and that will fold neatly into my ever-changing schedule. I have been successful for periods of time only to drop off when circumstances intrude. You might say that's just an excuse, and you may be right, but even so it does sometimes seem easy to let exercise go when other things require your time. You go along on schedule and then an unexpected event occurs that throws you off track, and before you know it, you've stopped exercising.
How to Maintain a Good Connection Over Time
Someone recently asked me what the single most important factor is to a long-lasting, healthy relationship. Big question! I can come up with 10 things pretty quickly, but to try and choose one above the rest is difficult. Nevertheless, I have come up with one answer which I believe embraces many of the important facets of good relationship.
A 3-Step Process
Can you guess what the worst thing is to say to someone who's angry?
Unfortunately, that is everyone's first instinct and often is exactly what is said. The intention is good. You know that if the angry person can calm down, then it's possible to talk about the issue at hand and maybe resolve it. The problem is that when you say "calm down", it just makes them angrier.
Correcting Cognitive Distortions
If you have ever sought out counseling, or been around people in the mental health field, you've likely heard of Cognitive Therapy. If not, no worries. It's not necessary to know about it to grasp the subject of this blog entry. In general, cognitive therapy focuses on people's thoughts, and how thoughts and thought processes influence their emotions and sense of what's real. Actually, the whole subject of thoughts is quite popular today and there is a lot of self-help literature out there that talks about how our thoughts interact with what happens to us, how we perceive things, and how we feel. It's a big subject, but for today, I want to talk about something called "cognitive distortion." It's a simple idea, and understanding it can help you correct thought patterns and tendencies that don't service you well.