Staying in Your Dysfunctional Comfort Zone
A friend asks you for advice about a problem she's having, and every suggestion or idea you offer is met with "Yes, but that won't work for me because . . ." You've had the experience? I'm sure you have. I think we all have. Sometimes it happens in a one on one situation with a friend or colleague, and sometimes in a bigger arena like at a meeting at work where there is a brainstorming session to help solve a problem, and the suggestions are shut down as fast as they come up.
Communicative versus Evocative Communication
Have you ever been in a conversation where each new statement that is uttered leaves you feeling like you are sinking further and further into quicksand? Most everyone has. As you say something, the other person responds in a way that seems to totally miss what you were trying to get across, and the more they say, the more the whole conversation becomes muddled. Finally you just give up because you can't tell what's going on anymore, and it becomes clear that there isn't a remote chance that any real communication is going to take place.
Mile-A-Day to the Rescue
I don't know about you, but I find it difficult to establish a regular exercise program that I can stick with, and that will fold neatly into my ever-changing schedule. I have been successful for periods of time only to drop off when circumstances intrude. You might say that's just an excuse, and you may be right, but even so it does sometimes seem easy to let exercise go when other things require your time. You go along on schedule and then an unexpected event occurs that throws you off track, and before you know it, you've stopped exercising.
How to Maintain a Good Connection Over Time
Someone recently asked me what the single most important factor is to a long-lasting, healthy relationship. Big question! I can come up with 10 things pretty quickly, but to try and choose one above the rest is difficult. Nevertheless, I have come up with one answer which I believe embraces many of the important facets of good relationship.