Communicative versus Evocative Communication
Have you ever been in a conversation where each new statement that is uttered leaves you feeling like you are sinking further and further into quicksand? Most everyone has. As you say something, the other person responds in a way that seems to totally miss what you were trying to get across, and the more they say, the more the whole conversation becomes muddled. Finally you just give up because you can't tell what's going on anymore, and it becomes clear that there isn't a remote chance that any real communication is going to take place.
Mile-A-Day to the Rescue
I don't know about you, but I find it difficult to establish a regular exercise program that I can stick with, and that will fold neatly into my ever-changing schedule. I have been successful for periods of time only to drop off when circumstances intrude. You might say that's just an excuse, and you may be right, but even so it does sometimes seem easy to let exercise go when other things require your time. You go along on schedule and then an unexpected event occurs that throws you off track, and before you know it, you've stopped exercising.
How to Maintain a Good Connection Over Time
Someone recently asked me what the single most important factor is to a long-lasting, healthy relationship. Big question! I can come up with 10 things pretty quickly, but to try and choose one above the rest is difficult. Nevertheless, I have come up with one answer which I believe embraces many of the important facets of good relationship.
A 3-Step Process
Can you guess what the worst thing is to say to someone who's angry?
Unfortunately, that is everyone's first instinct and often is exactly what is said. The intention is good. You know that if the angry person can calm down, then it's possible to talk about the issue at hand and maybe resolve it. The problem is that when you say "calm down", it just makes them angrier.