7 Steps to Turn It Around
It's a lament I hear often: "Why do the same things keep happening? Why do I get in the same horrible relationships? Why do I pick the wrong jobs, wrong people, wrong everything? Why does everything always go wrong for me?!"
Sometimes everyone needs a reset. Life gets too crowded, energy pours out in every direction like a bad plumbing leak, problems abound, demands are high, and you are just worn out. This can leave you feeling depleted, overwhelmed, used up, fragmented, out of control, and discontent. These are signs that you have become disconnected from yourself. It's time for a reset.
Staying in Your Dysfunctional Comfort Zone
A friend asks you for advice about a problem she's having, and every suggestion or idea you offer is met with "Yes, but that won't work for me because . . ." You've had the experience? I'm sure you have. I think we all have. Sometimes it happens in a one on one situation with a friend or colleague, and sometimes in a bigger arena like at a meeting at work where there is a brainstorming session to help solve a problem, and the suggestions are shut down as fast as they come up.
Communicative versus Evocative Communication
Have you ever been in a conversation where each new statement that is uttered leaves you feeling like you are sinking further and further into quicksand? Most everyone has. As you say something, the other person responds in a way that seems to totally miss what you were trying to get across, and the more they say, the more the whole conversation becomes muddled. Finally you just give up because you can't tell what's going on anymore, and it becomes clear that there isn't a remote chance that any real communication is going to take place.