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7 Ways We Sabotage Ourselves and How To Overcome Them

7 Ways We Sabotage Ourselves and How To Overcome Them

#1 Measure self-worth in terms of achievements.

When you are focused on outcomes and end results, and you measure your sense of worth and value in terms of your achievements and performance, you can easily see yourself as a failure when you don't succeed. Worse yet, you become the failure. That leaves you swinging between feeling really worthy when you achieve, and really unworthy when you don't.

Do You Feel Insignificant?

Do You Feel Insignificant?

Recently a client said to me that he wanted to do something "great" with his life. He's a young man at the beginning of his career, and he has aspirations to succeed. There's nothing wrong with that. It's a normal desire, but as we continued talking about it, I knew that more was going on. There was a strong sense of urgency, and even a little tinge of desperation.

As we investigated, it turned out that he feels quite insignificant, and the urgent desire to do something great was a desire to feel significant, and in turn feel worthy and loved. It wasn't really about accomplishment at all. It was about feeling worthwhile.

How to be Heard When You Talk

12 Practices to Strengthen Your Communication Style

How to be Heard When You Talk

With the amount of talking we all do, it would be a good idea to step back and assess how well you think people listen when you are talking. Do you feel heard? Do you think that others value what you have to say? Do you have a voice? 

The answer may vary depending on the situation, or on the person you are speaking with. Certainly some people listen better than others, and the depth of a relationship can make a difference. Even so, the question still stands: Do you feel heard?

Whether you answer yes or no, here are some ideas and practices that can help.

An Easy Way to Stay on Top of Goals and Actually Get Stuff Done

The 3-Goal Week

An Easy Way to Stay on Top of Goals and Actually Get Stuff Done

There is simply too much to do, yes?

I'm guessing almost everyone can relate to that statement. So what have you tried to make it all work?

Have you tried planners, new organization programs, goal-setting, resolutions, even apps that are supposed to help? And then you got excited about the new program and started off with a an enthusiastic bang, only to lose your resolve when things started to pile up? Yeah, me too.

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